I found a great article in the December 2007 issue of CIO Magazine about business networking for shy people. As I read it, I realize I don’t know that many shy people.
One of my good friends is painfully shy, and my wife marvels at the fact that we’re such good friends, because Bill doesn’t reach out to just anyone.
I figured there just weren’t any shy people any more. That it was something we all outgrew. But since CIO is not just writing an article for one person, there must be more shy people in the world. I’m just not in the place where other shy people congregate: large gatherings.
But there are still times where a shy person needs to be in one of those large groups. Rather than sitting uncomfortably in the corner, there are a few tips you can try to make the time bearable, and even enjoyable.
Meredith Levinson had 12 points, but I want to focus on three of the most important ones:
- Start small
- Tap into your passions
- Be yourself
Start small
Don’t feel like you have to walk up to the first stranger you see and start a conversation. Seek out people you already know, even if you have only met them a couple times. Talk about the things you already have in common and how you know each other. Maybe it’s work, maybe it’s living in the same neighborhood, or maybe you’re enjoying the same piece of art at the exhibit.
Tap into your passions
Rather than placing yourself in completely unfamiliar territory, attend an event that fits with your interests. If you like art, go to an art exhibit. If you’re into computers, find a users group that meets nearby. If you attend church or other religious institution, join a small group and meet just a few people on a regular basis.
Be yourself
You’re not a naturally outgoing and gregarious person, so don’t feel like you have to act like one. Just talk about what you know about, act like you would normally act, and don’t try to be someone you’re not. The people at the event are also interested in meeting new people, so they’ll be happy to get to know you. Just make sure they get to know the real you.
It’s important that you get out of your comfort zone occasionally and try something new, especially for your own personal and professional growth. Attend a networking event, whether it’s a business event, a social event, an art exhibition, or even a party. Make it your goal to meet one new person, and follow up with them.
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